Category Archives: Personal Matters

Taking A Break

Tight schedules to obey, feeling swamped by many deadlines at work, have to brave the crazy traffic jams every day, need to reboot your brain in between important presentations within a day, juggling to decide which one is the “first thing first” when you have a long list of things to do; just a few from a long list of hectic life that surely makes us wish to have more than 24 hours a day.

The next thing? We long to for  a break. We think about taking a two days off or annual leave so that we could be able to recuperate, to breath again. We so look forward for a simple well-spend weekend to rejuvenate our body and mind.

I know some people finding it hard to take  even a day off because their works so demanding. I have met some people that even don’t know how to enjoy their days off because they have been the workoholic ones.

Hhmm… taking a break has become an uneasy thing to do nowadays. Why? Isn’t it because we have a tendency to complicate our own life? My friend confessed how sadly he has forgotten on how to take a little break that actually it is easy to do in between his hectic life. He, then, shared this reminder on how to take a simple break on our daily life.

I’m pretty sure this reminder will benefit us in a long run.
Enjoy this exercise!

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A couple weeks ago a friend of mine challenged me to participate in a 5 day Black and White photo challenge. Hhmm… ay or nay? Should I? Shouldn’t I? I didn’t reply straight away. I took a bit of time to think about it as it is about commitment. At least to myself. The challenge itself is informal, just for fun between friends who love taking pictures.

I had thought a lot about it before I said “yes” to myself then my friend. First, as much as I love photography, I haven’t taken deeper dip into this genre. Secondly, I haven’t been really in the mood of roaming around with my camera lately. However, since I believe on learning something different everyday, finally with a long deep breath I replied to my friend, “Thank you. It’s an honour.”.

So here are those five shots I took within five days.

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Just like I always firmly believe, taking up challenge it’s more about learning than boasting yourself. In the course of five days, I managed myself to be diligent in taking one brand new shot a day in black and white. Not just desaturated old pictures into black and white. I seized the day, was constantly thinking what kind of object I should take today. I decided to just simply taking some new shoots that I could find around me. I got solid reason to go out although the weather was not up to my preference.

On the third day, I learned to enjoy taking black and white photo, not just admiring like I have always been. I learned more about black and white photography. Then the best outcome of this challenge for me was I could beat my own lazy mood in taking pictures. No more not-in-the-mood mode occupying my head. Yes, I didn’t carry my big camera around. But thanks to that handy camera phone and little tweaking with one photography app, I was a happy shooter. They surely worked like a charm.

Now my dear readers, what have you challenged yourself lately?





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I no longer….

I say YES because I am too live by this!

“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me.

I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.”

– José Micard Teixeira

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Being Success

Before I graduated from the university, my idea of being success was seem so common. My list of successful life had a look like this: get a (at least) master degree, get a prestigous job, have an awesome career, collect recognitions, start a family, successfully juggling between my dual-role as career woman and wife/mother, build a decent dream house to live in, go travel the world, have the “happy looking” portfolios in the bank account(s), be able to retire young thanks to the smart investments you have done before.

Indeed a successful life according to a 20’s something girl was that idealistic. Achievable yes but is it a true successful life about?

When I entered the school of life, slowly but sure, the meaning of successful life started to sound differently. It has become deeper and given different meaning for my well-being. As I learned more, I understood more. I realized more what is the actual essence of successful life. Well, at least, for myself.

Added to my comprehension about the meaning of successful life, one day I came across to what Zig Ziglar said about success. I copied the excerpted from his book: Born to Win! Find Your Success Code that I think it’s really worth to ponder in the amidst of hedonism or materialistic world we live in today.

A Definition of Success by Zig Ziglar

Here’s a short list of the characteristics of what I believe success isn’t and what I believe success is. Let’s start with what success is.

What Success Is:
1. Success is knowing that you did a great job when you close the door to your office at the end of each workday and head for home.
2. Success is having a home and people to love who love you in return.
3. Success is having the financial security to meet your obligations each month and the knowledge that you have provided that security for your family in the event of your demise.
4. Success is having the kind of faith that lets you know where to turn when there seems to be no place to turn.
5. Success is having an interest or hobby that gives you joy and peace.
6. Success is knowing who you are, and Whose you are.
7. Success is taking good care of you and waking up healthy each day.
8. Success is slipping under the covers at the end of the day and realizing with gratitude that, “It just doesn’t get much better than this!”

You see from this list that success is more than a one-sentence definition. Success involves the whole person, and if you skimp on one area, you will limit your success in others. Now, let’s take a look at what success isn’t.

What Success Isn’t:
1. Success isn’t missing dinner with the family several times a week because of working excessively.
2. Success isn’t rushing home from work and hiding out with the TV thinking, “After the day I’ve had, I need my space!”
3. Success isn’t about how to make more money when you already have more money than you can spend.
4. Success isn’t about going to church and ignoring everything you hear.
5. Success isn’t all work and no play.
6. Success isn’t about being so busy that you live on unhealthy fast food, served to you through little windows.
7. Success isn’t spending mental energy worrying about late projects, being home on time, your health, missing your child’s school play, being able to pay your bills, or finding joy in your life.
8. Success isn’t texting while you drive to catch up on your overloaded schedule.

What is the meaning of successful life itself for you?

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Two Thousand Fourteen

The year is 2014.
Day One.

I firmly believe it will be an awesome one for me and I wish the same for all of you.
Just like last year and years before, I don’t make fancy shmancy resolutions.
However, this year I plan to implement this guidance of life in my daily chores.
hate no one_ali thalib


Have a blessed 2014 everyone!
Thank you for following this blog.

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The Best Place on Earth

Where is it?

Actually, it is just simply in the arms of the one who gives you the meaning of true love. The one who has been always accepting you just the way you are. The one who always stands next to you on your low as well high tides. The one who always brings out the best of you. The one who doesn’t mind with your silliness and imperfections. The one with whom you share all your hopes, dreams, tears and laughs. The one who proves what love is through simple actions than flowery words. The one who never promises you the moon but shows you every day the best support come what may.  The one whose hug resonates the words “I’m thankful for having you in my life”. 

in your arms

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Take Time

Instant coffee.
Instant noodles.
Instant messaging.
Instant prints.
Instant downloads.
Instant snow.
Instant love.

Instant this… instant that….

We are surrounded by instant things. In fact, many people prefer things that can be done in jiffy in the name of saving time. Or in order to keep up with living in the fast lane.

It’s interesting to see how people nowadays tend to forget that there are still some things can’t be done fast or instantly. And when they know they need to wait or spare more time for the results, they get restless. There are still things that need more time to be done, to be fixed, to be created. For that matter, we aim for quality instead of quantity. Why all those vintage furniture lasts longer than the ones we bought from the big box stores? Why cooking food from the scratch is healthier than consuming the boxed dinner out from microwave? If you are a true coffee lover, would you agree with me that grinding your own coffee beans will give you more satisfaction than drinking a cup of instant coffee?

In my previous path of life, I had experienced where some clients asked my team to do revision on their product advertisement in less than 24 hours. Okay, if the revision is minor, it could be done fast. But if it is major? How to come up with an excellent quality that we all strive for in less than 24 hours? I believe there will be flaws, overlook mistakes. Creating an excellent advertisement for their brand is not like making instant noodles or frying an egg. It needs reasonably time frame. But some clients like to think that the creative team is also equipped with many magic tricks like Merlin had. Of course, I said no and had to diplomatically negotiate the deadline.

Rush rush, fast fast, quick quick.
Hurry up please, oh hate delays.


Like it or not, the importance of taking time is still needed while we are living in the fast lane. That’s why I thought I should share this sweet reminder about the wonders of taking time.

Enjoy your time!
Make sure you don’t miss little things that actually matter in your life.
And I thank you for taking time reading this blog.

Author Unknown

Take time to laugh
It is the music of the soul.

Take time to think
It is the source of power.

Take time to play
It is the source of perpetual youth.

Take time to read
It is the fountain of wisdom.

Take time to pray
It is the greatest power on earth.

Take time to love and be loved
It is a God-given privilege.

Take time to be friendly
It is the road to happiness

Take time to give
It is too short a day to be selfish

Take time to work
It is the price of success.

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Spring’s Side Effect

Who would reject springtime? Look at that refreshing greenery, those blooming flowers are everywhere. Everything comes alive after many months was covered with thick blanket of snow. Oh what a happy happy joy joy season.

Less that I know, springtime also brings a side effect to which I had never experienced as a girl who grew up in a tropical country. A side effect that I call as the attack of cottonwood tree seeds. Today, I experienced it (again). They looks like snow flakes. Cute and fluffy, got blown away by the wind. Everywhere. A friend even said, “I just opened my inside door and a cloud flew at me.”.

They are not nice.
My eyes feel sore.
My skin feels itchy.

At first, I thought I got bitten by mosquitoes. Itchy here, itchy there, itchy everywhere. As for my eyes irritation, I thought it was because of dusts. Then I’ve been told it was because of the cottonwood. Now I think, it’s going to be weird if I have to wear goggle or skidoo helmet and jacket to cover up myself when I step outside just for my pictures hunting while others just on their shorts and light tops. Or I maybe should dress up like one of the Teletubbies to protect myself from this attack.

On the other hand, maybe this side effect of spring is telling me: to slow down a bit from the springtime’s euphoria. Maybe it tells me: time stay at home. Time to figure out how to short out my thousand pictures while looking at the big window that presents how lovely is the day outside.

Anyhow, it’s springtime, I shall not feel down!

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