Category Archives: Personal Matters

My Constant Friends

 

For the last decade, I could say, I am pretty much a homebody. Perhaps that helps to explain why I don’t have many friends like I used to since I have been living in this small town. I don’t really socializing  anymore like I used to when I was in my hometown, Jakarta. The people that I called real friends here are only few, probably less than ten. The rest, I’d rather call them as acquaintances. Interestingly enough, I have found more nice friends virtually than in a reality. They even have become good friends. Clearly this shown that, indeed, time has changed a lot in our way of making friends.

Anyhow, as time goes by, I finally found my other special  friends. They come with no drama that could break my heart. They come in a form of flowers. Most of all, they come out from my own garden. Although they only here for a short season (thanks to our very long winter), I know good and well that in them, I find solace. That’s why, I totally agreed on what Kakuzo Okakura said about flowers.

In joy or sadness, flowers are our constant friends.
Kakuzo Okakura

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Fifteen Minutes

As my Ramadan 2016 is on its last week, I found this nice gentle reminder I’d love to share with you. This exercise is not solely for Muslims, but it is also great for whoever you are. For all of us who always strive for better meaningful life.

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Spend fifteen minutes daily to think about things that you should be thankful for.
Recall people in your life, whom you may have taken for granted like your parents, spouse, children, co-worker, or teacher, who were caring and loving.

List some of Allah’s gifts that are not tangible or were not obvious to you before. Sulayman, a follower of the Prophet’s Companions, once said: “Remembering His blessings makes one love Allah.”

This simple mental exercise not only makes you a grateful person, but also a healthy one. According to a 2001 research bythe Institute for Research on Unlimited Love (IRUL), based in Ohio, just fifteen minutes a day focusing on the things you are grateful for will significantly increase your body’s natural antibodies, will make you less vulnerable to clinical depression, and will keep your blood pressure and heart rate stable.

 

 

Source:
http://www.soundvision.com/article/18-ways-to-achieve-greatness-through-gratefulness

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A Bucket-Filler

Are You a Bucket-Filler or a Dipper?
Author Unknown

You have heard of the cup that overflowed. This is a story of a bucket that is like the cup, only larger, it is an invisible bucket. Everyone has one. It determines how we feel about ourselves, about others, and how we get along with people. Have you ever experienced a series of very favorable things which made you want to be good to people for a week? At that time, your bucket was full.

A bucket can be filled by a lot of things that happen. When a person speaks to you, recognizing you as a human being, your bucket is filled a little. Even more if he calls you by name, especially if it is the name you like to be called. If he compliments you on your dress or on a job well done, the level in your bucket goes up still higher. There must be a million ways to raise the level in another’s bucket. Writing a friendly letter, remembering something that is special to him, knowing the names of his children, expressing sympathy for his loss, giving him a hand when his work is heavy, taking time for conversation, or, perhaps more important, listing to him.

When one’s bucket is full of this emotional support, one can express warmth and friendliness to people. But, remember, this is a theory about a bucket and a dipper. Other people have dippers and they can get their dippers in your bucket. This, too, can be done in a million ways.

Lets say I am at a dinner and inadvertently upset a glass of thick, sticky chocolate milk that spills over the table cloth, on a lady’s skirt, down onto the carpet. I am embarrassed. “Bright Eyes” across the table says, “You upset that glass of chocolate milk.” I made a mistake, I know I did, and then he told me about it! He got his dipper in my bucket! Think of the times a person makes a mistake, feels terrible about it, only to have someone tell him about the known mistake (“Red pencil” mentality!)

Buckets are filled and buckets are emptied ? emptied many times because people don’t really think about what are doing. When a person’s bucket is emptied, he is very different than when it is full. You say to a person whose bucket is empty, “That is a pretty tie you have,” and he may reply in a very irritated, defensive manner.

Although there is a limit to such an analogy, there are people who seem to have holes in their buckets. When a person has a hole in his bucket, he irritates lots of people by trying to get his dipper in their buckets. This is when he really needs somebody to pour it in his bucket because he keeps losing.

The story of our lives is the interplay of the bucket and the dipper. Everyone has both. The unyielding secret of the bucket and the dipper is that when you fill another’s bucket it does not take anything out of your own bucket. The level in our own bucket gets higher when we fill another’s, and, on the other hand, when we dip into another’s bucket we do not fill our own … we lose a little.

For a variety of reasons, people hesitate filling the bucket of another and consequently do not experience the fun, joy, happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction connected with making another person happy. Some reasons for this hesitancy are that people think it sounds “fakey,” or the other person will be suspicious of the motive, or it is “brown-nosing.”

Therefore, let us put aside our dipper and resolve to touch someone’s life in order to fill their bucket.

 
Re-shared from AsAManThinketh.net

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Taking A Break

Tight schedules to obey, feeling swamped by many deadlines at work, have to brave the crazy traffic jams every day, need to reboot your brain in between important presentations within a day, juggling to decide which one is the “first thing first” when you have a long list of things to do; just a few from a long list of hectic life that surely makes us wish to have more than 24 hours a day.

The next thing? We long to for  a break. We think about taking a two days off or annual leave so that we could be able to recuperate, to breath again. We so look forward for a simple well-spend weekend to rejuvenate our body and mind.

I know some people finding it hard to take  even a day off because their works so demanding. I have met some people that even don’t know how to enjoy their days off because they have been the workoholic ones.

Hhmm… taking a break has become an uneasy thing to do nowadays. Why? Isn’t it because we have a tendency to complicate our own life? My friend confessed how sadly he has forgotten on how to take a little break that actually it is easy to do in between his hectic life. He, then, shared this reminder on how to take a simple break on our daily life.

I’m pretty sure this reminder will benefit us in a long run.
Enjoy this exercise!

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