Before I graduated from the university, my idea of being success was seem so common. My list of successful life had a look like this: get a (at least) master degree, get a prestigous job, have an awesome career, collect recognitions, start a family, successfully juggling between my dual-role as career woman and wife/mother, build a decent dream house to live in, go travel the world, have the “happy looking” portfolios in the bank account(s), be able to retire young thanks to the smart investments you have done before.
Indeed a successful life according to a 20’s something girl was that idealistic. Achievable yes but is it a true successful life about?
When I entered the school of life, slowly but sure, the meaning of successful life started to sound differently. It has become deeper and given different meaning for my well-being. As I learned more, I understood more. I realized more what is the actual essence of successful life. Well, at least, for myself.
Added to my comprehension about the meaning of successful life, one day I came across to what Zig Ziglar said about success. I copied the excerpted from his book: Born to Win! Find Your Success Code that I think it’s really worth to ponder in the amidst of hedonism or materialistic world we live in today.
A Definition of Success by Zig Ziglar
Here’s a short list of the characteristics of what I believe success isn’t and what I believe success is. Let’s start with what success is.
What Success Is:
1. Success is knowing that you did a great job when you close the door to your office at the end of each workday and head for home.
2. Success is having a home and people to love who love you in return.
3. Success is having the financial security to meet your obligations each month and the knowledge that you have provided that security for your family in the event of your demise.
4. Success is having the kind of faith that lets you know where to turn when there seems to be no place to turn.
5. Success is having an interest or hobby that gives you joy and peace.
6. Success is knowing who you are, and Whose you are.
7. Success is taking good care of you and waking up healthy each day.
8. Success is slipping under the covers at the end of the day and realizing with gratitude that, “It just doesn’t get much better than this!”
You see from this list that success is more than a one-sentence definition. Success involves the whole person, and if you skimp on one area, you will limit your success in others. Now, let’s take a look at what success isn’t.
What Success Isn’t:
1. Success isn’t missing dinner with the family several times a week because of working excessively.
2. Success isn’t rushing home from work and hiding out with the TV thinking, “After the day I’ve had, I need my space!”
3. Success isn’t about how to make more money when you already have more money than you can spend.
4. Success isn’t about going to church and ignoring everything you hear.
5. Success isn’t all work and no play.
6. Success isn’t about being so busy that you live on unhealthy fast food, served to you through little windows.
7. Success isn’t spending mental energy worrying about late projects, being home on time, your health, missing your child’s school play, being able to pay your bills, or finding joy in your life.
8. Success isn’t texting while you drive to catch up on your overloaded schedule.
What is the meaning of successful life itself for you?