A Bucket-Filler

Are You a Bucket-Filler or a Dipper?
Author Unknown

You have heard of the cup that overflowed. This is a story of a bucket that is like the cup, only larger, it is an invisible bucket. Everyone has one. It determines how we feel about ourselves, about others, and how we get along with people. Have you ever experienced a series of very favorable things which made you want to be good to people for a week? At that time, your bucket was full.

A bucket can be filled by a lot of things that happen. When a person speaks to you, recognizing you as a human being, your bucket is filled a little. Even more if he calls you by name, especially if it is the name you like to be called. If he compliments you on your dress or on a job well done, the level in your bucket goes up still higher. There must be a million ways to raise the level in another’s bucket. Writing a friendly letter, remembering something that is special to him, knowing the names of his children, expressing sympathy for his loss, giving him a hand when his work is heavy, taking time for conversation, or, perhaps more important, listing to him.

When one’s bucket is full of this emotional support, one can express warmth and friendliness to people. But, remember, this is a theory about a bucket and a dipper. Other people have dippers and they can get their dippers in your bucket. This, too, can be done in a million ways.

Lets say I am at a dinner and inadvertently upset a glass of thick, sticky chocolate milk that spills over the table cloth, on a lady’s skirt, down onto the carpet. I am embarrassed. “Bright Eyes” across the table says, “You upset that glass of chocolate milk.” I made a mistake, I know I did, and then he told me about it! He got his dipper in my bucket! Think of the times a person makes a mistake, feels terrible about it, only to have someone tell him about the known mistake (“Red pencil” mentality!)

Buckets are filled and buckets are emptied ? emptied many times because people don’t really think about what are doing. When a person’s bucket is emptied, he is very different than when it is full. You say to a person whose bucket is empty, “That is a pretty tie you have,” and he may reply in a very irritated, defensive manner.

Although there is a limit to such an analogy, there are people who seem to have holes in their buckets. When a person has a hole in his bucket, he irritates lots of people by trying to get his dipper in their buckets. This is when he really needs somebody to pour it in his bucket because he keeps losing.

The story of our lives is the interplay of the bucket and the dipper. Everyone has both. The unyielding secret of the bucket and the dipper is that when you fill another’s bucket it does not take anything out of your own bucket. The level in our own bucket gets higher when we fill another’s, and, on the other hand, when we dip into another’s bucket we do not fill our own … we lose a little.

For a variety of reasons, people hesitate filling the bucket of another and consequently do not experience the fun, joy, happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction connected with making another person happy. Some reasons for this hesitancy are that people think it sounds “fakey,” or the other person will be suspicious of the motive, or it is “brown-nosing.”

Therefore, let us put aside our dipper and resolve to touch someone’s life in order to fill their bucket.

 
Re-shared from AsAManThinketh.net

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Taking A Break

Tight schedules to obey, feeling swamped by many deadlines at work, have to brave the crazy traffic jams every day, need to reboot your brain in between important presentations within a day, juggling to decide which one is the “first thing first” when you have a long list of things to do; just a few from a long list of hectic life that surely makes us wish to have more than 24 hours a day.

The next thing? We long to for  a break. We think about taking a two days off or annual leave so that we could be able to recuperate, to breath again. We so look forward for a simple well-spend weekend to rejuvenate our body and mind.

I know some people finding it hard to take  even a day off because their works so demanding. I have met some people that even don’t know how to enjoy their days off because they have been the workoholic ones.

Hhmm… taking a break has become an uneasy thing to do nowadays. Why? Isn’t it because we have a tendency to complicate our own life? My friend confessed how sadly he has forgotten on how to take a little break that actually it is easy to do in between his hectic life. He, then, shared this reminder on how to take a simple break on our daily life.

I’m pretty sure this reminder will benefit us in a long run.
Enjoy this exercise!

 

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Challenge

A couple weeks ago a friend of mine challenged me to participate in a 5 day Black and White photo challenge. Hhmm… ay or nay? Should I? Shouldn’t I? I didn’t reply straight away. I took a bit of time to think about it as it is about commitment. At least to myself. The challenge itself is informal, just for fun between friends who love taking pictures.

I had thought a lot about it before I said “yes” to myself then my friend. First, as much as I love photography, I haven’t taken deeper dip into this genre. Secondly, I haven’t been really in the mood of roaming around with my camera lately. However, since I believe on learning something different everyday, finally with a long deep breath I replied to my friend, “Thank you. It’s an honour.”.

So here are those five shots I took within five days.

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Just like I always firmly believe, taking up challenge it’s more about learning than boasting yourself. In the course of five days, I managed myself to be diligent in taking one brand new shot a day in black and white. Not just desaturated old pictures into black and white. I seized the day, was constantly thinking what kind of object I should take today. I decided to just simply taking some new shoots that I could find around me. I got solid reason to go out although the weather was not up to my preference.

On the third day, I learned to enjoy taking black and white photo, not just admiring like I have always been. I learned more about black and white photography. Then the best outcome of this challenge for me was I could beat my own lazy mood in taking pictures. No more not-in-the-mood mode occupying my head. Yes, I didn’t carry my big camera around. But thanks to that handy camera phone and little tweaking with one photography app, I was a happy shooter. They surely worked like a charm.

Now my dear readers, what have you challenged yourself lately?

 

 

 

 

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